Friday giveaway: my Bonlook glasses

Posted on September 28th, 2012

If I had a dime for every time someone asks me where I got my glasses from…I’d have enough to shout Jo (who has to field such questions via Twitter, Facebook and this blog) dinner somewhere posh. The answer to the question, to help things out, is this: Bonlook, an online site where you enter your specs (prescription details) and they send you your…specs. And the style I’m wearing here: Urban Dandy.

 After getting a curiously large number of requests from Australia for Urban Dandies, Bonlook got in touch and offered to create a page where you can buy a pair of my glasses direct. (Just click on ‘my glasses‘ to order!)

Plus today they’re giving away:

one pair of cool glasses, worth $US99. The giveaway is open to all. To enter: Read more

handsome man and an apology

Posted on September 27th, 2012

First the dude.

Image via alcott

There. Done.

Now a quick apology for a messy clusterf*ck of blog spewage that those who follow my RSS feed were subject to today at lunchtime. Some gremlin took over for a few hours and sent out draft and rejected posts and Lord knows what other flotsam. Needless to say I realised too late to stem the barrage.

It was an interesting experience. Poor Jo woke to text messages over there in Greece from her concerned friends. Our lovely Nerd Angel Shayne then called in his Top Nerd mate to twiddle with things. All seems to be fixed now and I’m grateful to all mentioned in this paragraph. I’ve also been left wondering if it’s a sign I need to speed up a long overdue website overhaul and new blog direction.

Again, sorry for the annoyance and inconvenience. And feel free to let me know if you notice any other glitches.

who checks in on you?

Posted on September 27th, 2012

This week I spoke at yoga brand LuluLemon’s national conference. It was a room full of people comfortable in their Lycra and a yoga hairstyle (bun up high on head; enables headstand and backbend poses). I was in comfortable company!

photo by Neil Stewart

I spoke about How to Build a Good Life, based on advice gleaned from interviewing the Dalai Lama, tap-dancing from a plane with Sir Richard Branson, crying with Oprah’s life coach, and more, across  758 blog posts and 130 Sunday Life columns. As well as from almost 39 years on the planet. At the end I boiled things down to this: what makes a good life is the struggle to find a good life. It’s the striving, not the arriving.

At the end, one of the Lulu people asked me a pearler of a question. She pointed out that I’d mentioned a number of experts and gurus I’ve interviewed over the years had life coaches, or spiritual mentors whom they employed to guide them. She then asked: who checks in on you?

I immediately got what she was asking. She wanted to know how I remained accountable. It hit me as all truly challenging propositions do: with a thud.

I’m a loner. I live, work and float about on my own, most of the day, most of the days. Therefore, my life can become very one-dimensional and self-referencing. I could kid myself I’m a generous soul…because who’s going to question it? I can
go about my various habits and indulge my foibles without ever being challenged to confront them or grow them or question them. I have no mirror held up to me. Or, rather, the only reflection I get is of myself.

By stark contrast, when you’re in a relationship you have a mirror constantly held up to you. When the other person’s behaviour shits you, it’s generally more a reflection of what’s shitty about yourself. And so you’re forced to grow. To be frank, I admire people in relationships for being able to endure this process on a daily basis. I truly do.

So who checks in on me? How do I ensure I’m held accountable? Who or what do I rise up to? The answer I gave was Read more