Looking after yourself

Posted on May 8th, 2014

No really. Do you? Look after yourself? I often don’t. I learned the other night that it’s a Capricorn thing (being a bad self looker-afterer).

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The same night, the same person – one lovely Lou Androlia – shared that while she suffers from Hashimotos (and previously fibromyalgia, another autoimmune disease), she doesn’t get too many flares these days because she doesn’t get anxious too often. Anxiety and lack of sleep cause the biggest flares, we both agreed.

How come, I asked?

“Because I’m really good at looking after myself,” she said. Not smugly, just matter-of-factly (probably because she’s a Scorpio with Taurus in her sign…?!) This part of the conversation struck me and I went home elevated by it. Yes, looking after myself!

Before I go on, some context. I hooked up with Lou in Primrose Hill after she commented on Instagram under my shot taken just outside her house as I rode home from a yoga class at Fierce Grace yoga school (yes, more on this later). I recognized her handle. I knew she’d followed me for a long time and so I replied to her, on a whim, on my last night in London, asking if she’d like to meet up for a drink. She did (want to). So we did (meet up) an hour later. She was unmissable. She has flaming orange hair that just works a treat.

So it turns out Lou knows Gabby Bernstein. In fact, the last time they met up for an impromptu drink (after meeting online, too), Lou shared with Gabby that she might like to try my IQS 8 Week Program, which Gabby did.

So it was you who got Gabby onto it!?

The loops tightened. And tightened further. Turns out, too, she’s friends with Gala Darling. Who’s also friends with Gabby…And around and around we go. It’s been quite the trip for these loops. More context: Lou is a healer and life coach working a little with esoteric practices and using her own journey through illness as her guide. Yet another AI type earnestly needing to communicate (it’s definitely A Thyroid Thing).

On top of this, I’d spent the day feeling pretty low. Exhausted and a little lonely and directionless. And a bit thyroidy. I took stock at one point and thought to myself, “I’m feeling crap”. And sat in a quiet café with no one else in it and had a rosemary tea. Just this – that the place was empty and had rosemary tea (great for depression, hormone swing, blood sugar issues) – was confirmation from Life that taking stock was A Good Thing To Do. I took stock and reflected that I needed to do whatever it took to look after myself. Funnily enough.

More loops.

There we are!

There we are!

In that moment all it took was stopping and confirming that I had to look after myself, and to be OK with feeling crap. This very pause and reflection and acknowledgement was looking after myself. A weight lifted and an ease set in. I was then able to make simple decisions. Like, 1. Don’t go near shoppers/shopping 2. Don’t do “The Beast” yoga class requiring a mad rush 45 minutes on a bike across London; do the slightly gentler “Fierce” version a few hours later instead. All of which, of course, led me to go to enjoy a perfect yoga class, to post an Instagram post afterwards that connected me with Lou, which saw me have a nourishing evening with a fellow introvert who didn’t drain me (fellow introverts, by definition, don’t). Life flowed in.

For me, looking after myself is mostly about backing off and slowing down and getting space. It’s also about a dedicated morning routine and doing what I love.

For Lou, it’s about a morning routine, too…she needs to potter about her house for a good hour or so. She also commits to sitting on her cushion. Sometimes she meditates, sometimes she reads, sometimes she writes on this cushion.

It’s about walking when she gets thryoidy. Putting everything down and walking up to Primrose Hill and back. It’s drawing. It’s eating at home, and being on her own for slabs of time (me too!). And it’s being OK with feeling crap. Like really OK with it.

Pause, reflect, acknowledge. And then life flows in. That’s looking after yourself.

Do you struggle with the concept?  I’ve previously struggled with the idea of deserving to look after myself. And, to be honest, even knowing what it felt like. You?

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  • Karin – the-f-girl.com

    Yes. Oh yes. I so can relate. It’s hard, to look after myself. I mean, really look after myself. I feel sick so often, with my endometriosis (a chronic illness that gives me lots of pain and lack of energy) that drains so much life from me. It’s so easy to feel sorry for myself (not good) and eat badly (not good) out of the idiotic feeling that it won’t even get better, ever (not good at all) and that I’m too tired to be kind to myself (plain bad).

    But then, when it hits me, I do take that hot bath in the middle of the day and make that pot of tea and take a nap. Then, when I make myself a salad instead of eating a chocolate bar and say no to something that makes me feel sad or stressed I suddenly feel it: that wave of warmness, the energy, the joy in life that was hiding under all the crappiness. Cherishing myself, cuddling myself, comforting myself and knowing it’s ok, without blame or guilt, is sometimes so hard to do, but the only thing that’s really needed.

    I’m blabbering. It’s way past midnight around here and I’m way too tired to write this comment without failing to make sense. I hope I did (make sense) in a way anyway. I just couldn’t not respond, since you struck a cord that is still singing in my head.

    Thank you. Tomorrow I am going to be kind. To myself.

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    Jessica Stead Reply:

    Well said Karin. It’s funny how hard it is to look after ourselves. I have lived with a chronic illness for 6 years now and I know that feeling of needing to take a rest in the day. It can be hard psychologically to do what feels right, instead of what you think you ‘should’ be doing. Energy is such a tricky one. Thanks for sharing. xxx

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    LL Reply:

    Hi Sarah,
    Thank you I have only just stumbled across your site now!! Having devoured. Oth if your great books, it was brilliant to find your site. I have always been a bit cautious about fad diets etc, and I like to think I’m fairly intuitive when I meet people or see new things being sold to me….I found your books to have substance and authenticity in your approach; I can see all of this comes from experience, an a passion for health and people…sooooo it resonated when I saw you had qualified as a health coach. Can I ask you here if you felt it was a worthwhile investment? I am seriously considering it, and before info ahead as it is expensive, do you feel it was worth the price? If I do go ahead, should I mention your name-are they still donating money to OzHArvest?
    Please let me know, when you have time on any thoughts..I would be so grateful. I really applaud what you are doing, and it feels real…
    Thank you,
    LL (London) x

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  • Ariane Khachatourians

    I’m so glad you decided to write this right now. I’ve been feeling quite stuck and frustrated during this long flare I’ve been enduring (that was sparked by some medical tests and then travelling right after them).

    I do a decent job taking care of myself until the flare gets too bad or continues too long, and then I really do a crap job of it. Completely self defeating right?

    People like you and Louise really inspire me to figure out how to make what I’m going through useful, and channel it in some way to make my life and others’ lives better. But I know that to do that, we have to keep taking care of ourselves first and foremost!

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    Louise Reply:

    Love – I know what it’s like, I feel I’ve just ‘mastered’ the self care thing – though it’s totally an every day awareness. Funny how it’s when we need it the most that we forget. I know that your story is valuable, and we are all in it together! x

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    Ariane Khachatourians Reply:

    Hi Louise! Thanks for the solidarity note. <3

    It's such a comfort having others who are talking so honestly about their life and health experiences – not just showing the "perfect" side of their lives or pretending the hard stuff doesn't happen, and yet being able to channel it all in a positive direction.

    Sending love ~~ xo

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  • Camilla

    I also understood that. Just the other day. :)
    Looking after yourself.
    Thank you for this post.

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  • Deepa

    I can completely relate. I do have a tendency to push myselfoto do things that I think I should do, rather than what I want. I will make plans days ahead and when the day comes find that the plan doesn’t fit in with how I’m feeling. I used to push myself to do ev everything anyway, then beat myself up if I couldn’t get it all done. Slowly I am learning to listen to my body and mind, and forgive myself if I can’t do everything on the list.

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  • Paula Nitschke

    Funny you should post this Sarah, I’m not the best of looking after me first, I feel guilty taking time off when sick. Today is the first day that I’ve decided to look after me, I’ve got a nasty head cold, glands are up and I take longer to recover from colds as my immune system struggles as I dont have a thyroid gland any more (surgically removed 7 years ago due to Graves disease). Colds just set me back! So today I’m.looking after me and resting

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  • Elle

    I’ve learnt how important it is to look after yourself and I try my best to prioritize my health even if it means taking slower than I’d like and missing out on social events etc.

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  • EKougi

    My biggest hurdle to looking after myself is that I find routine boring so usually I have to trick myself into things.

    I’ve never had a problem about deserving a rest though, whether it be a cold, or if I know I’ve over done it. My experience has always been either I rest for a short time now, or the Gods will force me to rest for a lot longer later. It’s my choice.

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  • Kylie

    I never used to ‘take stock’ or even acknowledge why I was feeling a certain way. After having a bad bout of anxiety that lead to struggling with constant reflux I have become a lot better on both of these areas.

    I feel like it is a good indication of wellbeing to be able to acknowledge what is going on for you at any given time. Whether it is good or bad can almost be irrelevant as it is always going to go up and down and that is the most important.

    I enjoyed Kelly McGonigals TED talk about stress and the positive effect it has on people when they can acknowledge that it is happening and use it to there advantaged rather then being overwhelmed by it or letting ourselves stay in that state constantly. Anway that is where I am it. Thanks Sarah for reaffiming.

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    Becky Huff Hunter Reply:

    Thank you for this recommendation. McGonigal’s talk was so useful!

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    Alice Angelina Reply:

    Hi, I too have just recently stumbled across Sarah’s blog while trying to research more “natural” treatment options for my Hashimoto’s and Fibromyalgia. I have learnt so much already. Thanks Sarah.

    I was extremely interested though to read Kylie’s post regarding her battle with anxiety and reflux as my 29 year daughter also suffers greatly with the same problems – anxiety, sometimes full blown panic attacks and constant reflux. I would love to know what treatments, routines, medicinals etc. that Kylie and others have found effective.

    It would seem that both Anxiety Disorders and AI’s are both minefields when it comes to accurate diagnosis and effective treatments. Would love to hear others’ thoughts and ideas on these issues. Alice Angelina.

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  • http://www.igiveyoutheverbs.com Annette @ IGiveYouTheVerbs

    It’s a great thing to actually tune into yourself – to be able to follow those prompts to potter, to stay home, to make soup or whatever will be most beneficial to your inner life. Whilst I don’t have the health part sorted, I am so proud of the work that I’ve done in learning to look after myself, to work with rather than against myself.

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  • http://www.getinthehotspot.com/ Annabel, Get In The Hot Spot

    You seem to be a pro at looking after yourself – all that healthy eating and exercise for starters. But looking after yourself is easier than being kind to yourself, for me that’s the hardest part of all when it comes to self-care

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  • josie

    I will now go for a walk…feeling thyroidy but somewhat elated after watching some great stuff on The Thyroid Sessions….which I came to by following a link on your blog!
    Funny how, I actually allowed myself to spend money on buying into this because it was on your blog so it must be good! I am totes(te he ) not into buying things like that.Anyways…taking my cold hands and feet out for a walk. I love the round abouts you just described….life really is not not not random…or maybe it is…or not…hmmmmmmmmmm

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  • Alli Metcalfe

    Thanks for this post Sarah, this is something I have really struggled with too for such a long time, up until recently. I never really got the concept of self care, although the messages were loud and clear from friends, practitioners, etc. But once you figure it out, it’s really amazing how much space and clarity comes from giving yourself that extra care. Thanks again for bringing it to light. I definitely think it’s something we all need to work on and maybe that will make this world a better place!

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    Sarah Wilson Reply:

    it really is something that can take a while to “figure out”…or, more accurately, to not figure out, but just to start living, almost by accident. It then becomes something that you have to plan and set aside time and space for.

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  • Kate Smyth

    I love hearing about “loop tightening” experiences. Whether you believe in coincidence, synchronicities, fate (or whatever) or not, it’s still feels pretty darn cool when it happens.

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  • Rachel Hawes

    I know this is totally not the point but there is no evidence for fibromyalgia being an AI disease. It’s increasingly thought to be nuerological. I thought that was quite interesting & as a sufferer makes more sense. Anyway, totally agree with the rest of this. Took me years to learn to look after myself.

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  • Mel H

    I read your blog religiously, but this is the first time I’ve felt compelled to post – this has completely resonated with me and given me a massive “a-ha” moment. I want to thank you for that.

    What you’re saying has completely aligned with what my therapist is helping me work through.

    I keep thinking that eating junk food is being kind to myself, and that
    chocolate bar will make me feel better, and I can cover those feelings
    up with a tub of ice cream. But it’s actually the complete opposite.

    Being kind
    would be taking a second to really think and feel what is wrong. Being
    kind would be making myself something delicious and nutritiously filling
    like a big bowl of broccoli or something.

    Thank you for giving me something to think about. xx

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  • Zara D’Cotta

    So refreshing to hear you often feel this way too Sarah.. I’ve had one of ‘those’ days today.. being an a-type personality am often way too hard on myself when I feel like this. I was diagnosed with breast cancer last year at age 29 and one of my biggest challenges over the past year has been knowing when to slow down and stop… I’m getting much better at it but I do have to keep reminding myself. I won’t be so hard on myself next time though :-). Thank you for sharing

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  • Ros

    Thanks Sarah. I am having a Hashi flare myself today from lack of sleep. Sitting down to read your blog was the first chance i have had to sit today. I need to be still a lot more often. Thank you.

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  • Lizzie J

    Love your post! I can really relate. It takes effort to say no and slow down but its the only way to a healthier life! :)

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  • http://louiseandrolia.com/ Louise

    I love how you describe in this way of ‘loop tightening’ – it’s perfect!
    Love hearing everyones routines too – I truly believe it’s the thread that can hold you together even when other things seem chaotic, self care is grounding and solid <3

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  • Suzette

    Nice post. Is it a scorpio thing to be able to look after yourself? Or did you mean it’s a scorpio thing to be matter-of-fact?
    Just asking because I am a scorpio… and I think I’m quite good at looking after myself. Not always, of course, but on the whole I seek out ‘look aftery’ experiences quite a lot, and by that I mean taking long hot baths, deep conditioning my hair, using a face mask. Getting a massage when I feel I need one. Feeling no guilt about going to bed in the middle of the day on the weekend if I fancy it. That sort of thing. I rarely force myself to go to any kind of social invite that doesn’t sit right with me and feel absolutely no guilt about doing so. But then again, I have never been a Type A person, I tried to be a few years ago and my body HATED it!

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    Louise Reply:

    Hi Suzette, I think it’s a Scorpio thing to want to dig deeper, about everything, so i feel that’s why we can get into a habit of being unapologetic about self care, I always see myself getting better at doing it because I get stubborn about it! <3

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    EKougi Reply:

    I think it also helps us to notice the subtle changes in our bodies,alerting us to get onto things quicker.

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  • Sherry Weitzen

    this is just what I needed to read today. Thank you!

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  • Sophia

    This is so apt. I’m terrible with self love. Exercised myself into secondary amenorrhea with poor nutrition and am only now trying to find a path out! I’m stuck on an addictive carb train – mainly Bagels. I’ve recently come across your iqs plan and I’m SO intrigued for getting my health back on track through it. I eat mainly vegan but I’m starting to think I’m missing out on all the healthy animal fats and nutrients and hence why I keep caving in with bagel cravings. I don’t know though, what do you think?

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  • Amy

    I take great care of myself – except when I don’t! And when I don’t then it’s sometimes days before I get back on my A game by juicing, yoga, meditating and creating, which is nuts really because if I could just maintain those things that make life feel ‘together’ daily then I’d make stuff a whole lot easier for myself! When I am actively engaging in my self care practices I enjoy it all so much more. We have to pay attention to life though so we don’t sabotage ourselves don’t we?!

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  • http://thepresenceofhope.blogspot.com.au/ Jessica Stead

    Thanks for this post Sarah. It seems that taking care of ourselves as women is a struggle for many, not just those facing serious and chronic health concerns. I find it the hardest to slow down when I know I need to, but I am so excited about life and what is happening around me…those are the times I run myself into the ground.

    I have had two big weeks and now am having jaw problems..wondering if this is my body’s way of saying “slow down.” :-) Thanks again for the post. Have a lovely weekend. xxx

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  • Merilyn

    You are singing my song. It has taken years for me to realise that my crappy, unwell days are what you call ‘thyroidy’ days. That revelation you’ve given me has brought such relief!

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    Sarah Wilson Reply:

    amazing how the most obvious things escape us…because we’re expecting too much of ourselves.

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    Merilyn Wilson Beretta Reply:

    Yup. Classic A1 of course. I need to also say a big ‘thanks’ Sarah. Been a quiet follower for a few years now, before even your first ‘proper’ book was published. You’ve impacted and inspired me so much.

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  • Lloukia

    Thank you so much for this post. This is exactly what I needed to hear today… to remind myself to SLOW DOWN and that its okay to have a rest lunch, a rest day or a rest weekend. Coming out of a long-term relationship and into singleton my top priority has been to keep busy, but this ‘keeping busy’ has run me down. This post has reminded me that I should be restful, I now I plan to do exactly that this weekend. Prep for my week ahead, “Pause, reflect, acknowledge” and maybe even make your delicious sugar-free cheesecake. Thanks Sarah!

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    Sarah Wilson Reply:

    yes, cheesecake!

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  • Febs

    Thanks, Sarah. This to me sums up what you are all about – the pause, listening, possibly shifting then acting ( even when ‘acting’ is bringing yourself to a peaceful halt). I follow you on your journey, inspired and finding constant reminders, reflections of what I need more of/less of in my life through you. How helpful your sharing is as I go, go, go with my three little ones under the age of 4 1/2. When I don’t take care of myself I cannot properly take care of anyone else either (and enjoy so much there is to enjoy), it’s so easy to forget. Great post. With gratitude…

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  • Kathleen

    It’s saying yes to yourself. It’s hard, but we can do it!

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  • Marnie Bergan

    Hi Sarah. Completely unrelated to this post, but I thought I’d just share this little ditty with you: I have a few minutes to kill and thought, “What site can I go to that’ll make me feel good, calm and thoughtful?” Yours popped to mind instantly! I hope you’re well. :)

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  • Alex

    I love this self realisation Sarah. It’s hard to admit what we need to do, to look after ourselves because it sounds weak and “woosy” and we are supposed to be tough, strong, “handle anything” women these days.
    I really noticed a change in my tough shell after my twins were born and from then on…fatigue is the big one.

    I fought it for a long time and would always get sick,never able to give the best of myself to my family or anything really. So in the last couple of years, with the support of my husband, I pull back and do what I need to do. Quiet time – reading, lying down, cooking, the things that work for me. Saying No is a big one and not trying to be part of everything, but how much better I am for it…and that’s OK.

    On top of that, learning and incoroprating the Paleo lifestyle (incorporating IQS) has helped a lot too.

    Cheers to those who can recognise what they need to do to be the best that they can be.

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  • Cass

    Thank you for sharing this Sarah!
    I’m a fellow Capricorn and while I do a lot of really great stuff for myself a lot of the time, I don’t commit to myself. I often tell myself I’m too busy or feel guilty or think about what I need to do for someone else first. We need to commit to ourselves…

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  • Karen

    It’s taken me many years to master this and it’s still a work in progress to some degree. For ages I also struggled with the deserving aspect, and had anorexia for quite some time – so I wouldn’t even perform the basic self care task of feeding myself adequately. Makes me very sad to think of this. There’s been a huge turnaround now though and I coach women through their own eating issues, a large chunk of which is learning extreme self care and recognising the importance of this. And perhaps the English in me knows that a cup of tea can solve so many things!

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  • Slim Birdy

    Great post fellow Capricornian! I’ve always felt lazy and unproductive if I take time for myself. However experience has taught me that I always come back far more recharged and inspired when I do. So I required a mind shift from ‘lazy to necessary’ if I am to be my best self. I wonder where the lazy belief came from in the first place anyway?

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  • Rachel

    Excellant! I too suffer with anxiety/ stress and I think much of that is due to not taking time out. I’m also an introvert and value my ‘down-time’. This blog has come at a very relevant time for me. I’m studying with the Open University and have just taken the step of deferring my last and current course because it started to overwhelm me – even though I absolutely love the content. As a perfectionist I feel like I failed, but the realist part of me knows that if I continue even at this late stage I will probably make myself ill, probably get a bad result and be deeply dissapointed. I am currently convincing myself that not only is it okay to take another year to complete at my own pace but that I will possibly get a better result, very probably enjoy it more and consequently learn more in the process – which is why I took the course in the first place. It also takes the pressure off and allows me to do some cloud gazing – in other words chill out.

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  • Melz

    Hi Sarah. Thank you so much for posting this. It was just what I needed to hear today. I don’t have AI, but I do have candida overgrowth and adrenal fatigue, both of which can make me feel down and crappy at times – probably similar to what you feel when you are ‘thyroidy’. Today is one of those days. Usually I’m pretty good at looking after myself (diet, sleep, exercise etc). But I definitely think that the final piece is being kind to yourself – knowing that it’s ok to feel crap and to listen to your body and give it what it needs. Today for me that happens to be a ‘duvet day’, with lots of reading, feel good movie, good nutrition and a little bit of yoga or meditation.

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    Sarah Wilson Reply:

    bravo. hope it helped.

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  • Monkeyfish

    That’s a cute pic of two adorable ladies in glasses!

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  • princessfreesia

    I’m terrible at looking after myself (definitely a Capricorn thing!) even though I am an avid holistic health researcher and advocate of holistic living, and yet I always seem to fall off the wagon, despite regular routines of fitness and (mostly) healthy eating for my hashimotos due to my perfectionist and self-esteem issues. But no matter how crappy it gets, I somehow manage to pull myself together again and strive for a better life for myself. Your blog and your IQS lifestyle has really lifted me into a new headspace… so thank you so dearly Sarah. It’s very inspiring to know that it can be achieved and maintained, even through the shitty times :) x

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    Sarah Wilson Reply:

    we tend to work in areas that we need to explore ourselves…like neurotics become psychiatrists!

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    princessfreesia Reply:

    Haha, truly!

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  • LL

    Hi Sarah again,
    Oops, I replied to Karin below, rather than posting a comment to you..instead of repeating, if you read this, pls see my post below….and your post completely resonated with me about introverts. I too, almost shut up shop when I surround myself with extroverts, I like to think I am half way between into and extro…but, as I get older the introvert comes out, or is it that I am just becoming closer to want feels right and not having to be something else? Thanks again for communicating your thoughts and reaching out..it helps us all..LL (London) Ps. I do wonder though, living in London, it does have a heavier energy..maybe not as uplifting as other places sometimes? X

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  • alison

    Hi Sarah, can you please do a ‘what you pack to travel’ again? I am fascinated by how little you manage to pack. Did you only take the green backpack or a suitcase this time? Also where is the backpack from? Desperate to know. Thanks Sarah

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  • http://www.simplelifestrategies.com/ Zoe B

    Dear Sarah,
    I have just been diagnosed with a low thyroid by a naturopath (using the thyroflex test). I’ve had blood tests via GPs 4-5 times and every time they send me away saying my thyroid is fine. But I know I have all of the symptoms….days where I flare up with cold hands & feet….swollen tongue…sore throat….pale, dry skin…and of course the extreme fatigue. OH THE FATIGUE. For a high achiever like me the fatigue just kills me! I have so much I want to do in the world!

    My intuition has been telling me that there is something not quite right with my thyroid. And now the thyroflex has confirmed that. I was wondering how you were initially diagnosed with Hashimotos as I’ve been trying to get to the bottom of this for almost 2 years now and no one in the western world is helping me…could you recommend a doctor who specialises in Thyroid or autoimmune? Or is it enough to be diagnosed via the thyroflex?

    Any help would be so appreciated – or direction to a blog post if you have already written about this.

    Thanks for your work to help the world understand a little bit more about Thyroid disorders…I really appreciate everything that you’re doing and would like to do everything I can to raise awareness about this, as I have a feeling that there are alot of undiagnosed women out there suffering in silence.

    Love
    Zoe B
    X

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  • Lauren

    Hi, I’m a fellow Capricorn, IQS’er and Introvert. I have just broken up with my boyfriend of one and a half years (it ended badly) and have just rediscovered me time again. I thought back to what I was doing before he came into my life, when I was feeling very calm and content. The answer was running. My area has the most beautiful scenery, I’m surrounded by water and mountains which make for spectacular sunsets. This makes my run that much more enjoyable and I make sure to walk at the beginning and end to fully take in my surroundings and calm my mind.

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  • http://www.spiritheartessence.com SpiritHeartEssence

    Great confirmation. With a history of Crohn’s my immune system is always taking a hit. Working a full time senior manager job, two teenagers and a partner and then find time for me (and build my coaching business) isn’t easy and some things just need to be dropped occasionally. I also tend to focus intensely on one thing and burn out easily – so it’s nice to be reminded it’s OK to just not do anything. Or leave something be for a while. <3

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  • Emma

    Can anyone share any advice, stories, direction on weight gain while doing the 8 week program. My sister and I have been following the program and have noticed a sensation of feeling heavier. We are both about six weeks through and are worried that the end result will equal being heavier than when we started out. The scales are indicating 2-3kg increase. On the plus side, feeling healthier and skin looking better.

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  • Anna Franklin

    Yes yes yes. I really need to remember that checking in on this blog is a real help when I’m not feeling great. I have a list in the back of my diary of the things that help me feel good (no.1 meditation) and will be adding this blog to the list. I’ve only been reading it for 2 years! Der Fred!

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  • CarlaC

    It is hard to look after ourselves. I find the morning routine SOOOOO important, it literally changes my day.

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