I’m glad I’ll be old when I find love

Posted on April 23rd, 2015

I’ve come to a lot of peace lately (the last year or two) with my singledom. There are a number of themes that have emerged and informed this stable, quiet, happy place. I’ve explored a few before here and here.


Image by Merve Ozaslan

But recently I’ve realised this, with hindsight: I haven’t trusted myself to love another in the way I’d like to love A Special One and so, thankfully, subliminally, I’ve kept myself away from the field until I’ve had the emotional muscle to do it well.

As is so often the case when I explore a theme, a ripper quote then appeared from the interwebs (bless this mess!) to remind me I’m on the right track:

“To love without knowing how to love wounds the person we love.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

Not knowing how to love…what is this? I think it comes in many flavours. It’s loving the idea of someone or loving the potential of someone. I’ve done both. Of course, when the “idea” that you originally envisaged Read more

My Healthy Family Meals Cookbook is out on e-shelves now!

Posted on April 21st, 2015

The I Quit Sugar team’s latest cookbook Healthy Family Meals  is my kind of book. In 40 recipes it encapsulates all the stuff I’m passionate about. It’s the way I eat. Simple, sustainable, economical, fuss-free with less pots and no fancy bits…and with a side (or three) of greens.


Baked Pumpkin

Here’s some things the team and I feel you might like to know:

1. Every meal is sustainable. We use chicken thighs, not breasts. You can read why here.We blitz leftover cooked veggies with cooked potato and a bit of butter to make an extra nutritious side dish.  We make our fish cakes with offcuts and buy full fat mince meat. Fat equals flavour and fills you up. The most insanely great bit about sustainable eating is that it’s also the most economical way to eat.

If you just want to get straight to the cookbook (!), it’s available in the I Quit Sugar store. Read more

Have you married yourself yet?

Posted on April 16th, 2015

I’ve just been introduced to the poet and philosopher, David Whyte. In his book The Three Marriages, he says we need to navigate, yep, three marriages in life: one to others (“particularly and very personally, to one other living, breathing person”), another to work and another to one’s self, “through an understanding of what it means to be themselves, discrete individuals alive and seemingly separate from everyone and everything else.”


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Whyte believes they all involve vows made either consciously or unconsciously and that we should work on all three marriages, not as separate entities that have to be pitted against each other (in order to find that elusive “balance”), but as a “conversation” where all three are equally important.

But, he flags, the toughest hook-up is with our selves. It’s also the most critical, because without it the other two are but desperate, wobbly, outward-looking clamberings.

“Neglecting this internal marriage, we can easily make ourselves a hostage to the externals of work and the demands of relationship. We find ourselves unable to move in these outer marriages because we have no inner foundation from which to step out with a firm persuasion. It is as if, absent a loving relationship Read more