• I asked my mindful mates how we should respond to Trump-ism… I’m approaching you, I wrote to a handful of people I know whose job it is to be mindful in their commentary, wondering if you had the will and time to share what a sound, wise, mindful way of coping with Whatever The F*ck Is Going On Right Now. I’m after the “better” and “bigger” response. more
  • Does quitting sugar help heal anxiety? The short answer is yes, without a doubt. The longer one requires me to rant. Let’s start with my experience, then flesh out from there. Me, when I got unwell with Hashimotos seven years ago, I was also suffering one of my most tumultuous bouts of anxiety. The two are very interrelated. I’ll explore this in more
  • The 9 best books that help heal anxiety I read widely and wonderfully while researching first, we make the beast beautiful, my book about my anxious journey. Actually, I’ve researched the topic for decades now and read many a fretty memoir, some more insightful and enriching than others. Here’s my pick of the bunch with short reviews. Because I did promise I’d provide more
  • Enough with the (hashtag) unicorns and rainbows! I was on a dating site recently. A guy who looked like Jesus (should Jesus exist today as a Swedish supermodel with a man-bun and a lot of photos of himself on jet skis)  flagged in his profile that he would flick left on anyone with a #blessed hashtag on their Instagram feed. Now, I more
  • new words for happiness and love I’ve been tracking a bunch of lovely, evocative words that have no English equivalent for a while. There’s a joy to learning these “loanwords”. They remind us that there are still things out there that remain undiscovered, unencapsulated. This naivety to the human experience comes as a nice relief. I think also we enjoy the more
  • The most essentialist observation about what women need in love I’ve ever made What do women want? Blokes, there’s only one thing you need to know. When we rant (seemingly) irrationally, when we do something that makes you say, “I damned if I do, I’m damned if I don’t”, or when we arch our eyebrow when your response to a confrontation is, “You’re just being complicated” …we are more
  • I’m finding peace with being a constant mover Do you guys remember Hazel Boot? Gosh, she’s great. I love the story of how we “met”. The other day she reached out. And we did some really cool quote sharing. We worked out that we’re both people who need to move a lot. As in, exercise, hike, ride and traverse vast tracts of ground, more
  • There’s an octopus on the cover of my book because… …well, octopuses, as a motif, swam into my life during the process of writing first, we make the beast beautiful. From all kinds of angles. You see, my book is about anxiety. Anxiety is complex. So are octopuses (and yes, it’s “octopuses”, not “octopi”, the latter utilising a Roman suffix, which you can’t do on more
  • first, we make the beast beautiful. a new story about anxiety… This beautiful beast has been the biggest project I’ve ever worked on. I’ve lived through it, under it. It’s taken me down, down, down. But it also forced me to get clear. I had to with such an exacting team of (wonderful) editors. And a readership I give a shit about. Today, I wanted to more
  • I don’t want to do any more run-ups! Let’s start life! How timely. The first post to sit in my new, pretty format (hope you like it?) and it’s about getting this life party started. I happened to notice this article about the challenge facing women in their twenties and thirties on Australian news site Women’s Agenda. The article quotes author and entrepreneur Wendy McCarthy, who says her real more