• Freedom is always available. Will you pay the price? Freedom is always available. One need only pay the price for it. – Henry de Montherlant How much do you want it? How much will you pay for yours? I seek freedom from the constraints of “having to do something that makes no altruistic or elegant sense”. The price I pay? I live a largely lonely life. more
  • Fire the f*ck up! There is a piquancy in the air. A sense we’re on the precipice of something. That we can no longer afford to be complacent. And yet. We’re sitting back. Aren’t we. Waiting. For the right moment? For the red carpet to be rolled out? For someone else to take the lead? To that I say, more
  • If you’re not in the arena getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested We all love Brene Brown, right? Her vulnerability polemic strikes deep, meaningful chords. I’ve met and chatted to her and learned that we both do the “three strikes and we act” thing. I also share her tips for getting real with yourself. I share also share a bunch of her insights from our chats in my more
  • My political opinions are annoying you??? I posted this image, above, on the socials a little while back. It voiced my thoughts perfectly. You see, somewhere out there in The World there is an Authority speaking from some Almighty Tome that tells us that if you’re a woman, and if you enjoy some level of fame, and if you are known in a more
  • The Adele anomaly I love anomalies. They keep us on our toes and from descending into clichés and ruts and expectations. Adele is an anomaly. In 2011, 2012 and 2016, she was named Artist of the Year. Time magazine named her one of the most influential people in the world in 2012 and 2016. With sales of more than 100 million records, more
  • I asked my mindful mates how we should respond to Trump-ism… I’m approaching you, I wrote to a handful of people I know whose job it is to be mindful in their commentary, wondering if you had the will and time to share what a sound, wise, mindful way of coping with Whatever The F*ck Is Going On Right Now. I’m after the “better” and “bigger” response. more
  • The 9 best books that help heal anxiety I read widely and wonderfully while researching first, we make the beast beautiful, my book about my anxious journey. Actually, I’ve researched the topic for decades now and read many a fretty memoir, some more insightful and enriching than others. Here’s my pick of the bunch with short reviews. Because I did promise I’d provide more
  • Enough with the (hashtag) unicorns and rainbows! I was on a dating site recently. A guy who looked like Jesus (should Jesus exist today as a Swedish supermodel with a man-bun and a lot of photos of himself on jet skis)  flagged in his profile that he would flick left on anyone with a #blessed hashtag on their Instagram feed. Now, I more
  • new words for happiness and love I’ve been tracking a bunch of lovely, evocative words that have no English equivalent for a while. There’s a joy to learning these “loanwords”. They remind us that there are still things out there that remain undiscovered, unencapsulated. This naivety to the human experience comes as a nice relief. I think also we enjoy the more
  • The most essentialist observation about what women need in love I’ve ever made What do women want? Blokes, there’s only one thing you need to know. When we rant (seemingly) irrationally, when we do something that makes you say, “I damned if I do, I’m damned if I don’t”, or when we arch our eyebrow when your response to a confrontation is, “You’re just being complicated” …we are more