• The sisterhood of pain and PTSD…an interesting perspective I just read Sebastian Junger’s Tribe. Junger is a war journalist who posits that post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) among veterans is mostly an issue with homecoming. That is, the most devastating and longterm psychological stress doesn’t come from the horrors of war so much as from the cold contrast of reintegrating into a society that more
  • Parenthood makes you mature. But what if you don’t have any kids? I’ve been thinking about this a bit. Maturity. I realised I’ve not really grown up. But I’m getting there. At 44. I was swimming across Bondi beach (where good thoughts often come to me), reflecting on a chat I’d had recently with my friend Rebecca. She has three kids, a full-time job, writes books and more
  • It’s called continuous partial attention… I read this Atlantic article about the dangers of screen time on kids. Yeah, blah, blah. But, no! This article turns things around. The bigger, broader, scarier issue (bigger than the direct effects of kids’ screen addictions) is the impact of parents’ screen addictions. Yeah, we’ve all been projecting. We always do when we experience shame, which reminds me more
  • What I’m giving away…my new wage manifesto. Bam! Hi. Hope you are well. I’ve taken a few months to map this notion out in my noggin and in my heart. As you might know, when I closed my business, I sold off some of the assets and gave the lot to charity. I set up a philanthropic trust. See below for the gist more
  • Don’t be nervous, work joyously. I came across Henry Miller’s “11 Commandments of Writing” in a review of a book of his essays. The book was written around the time he wrote Tropic of Cancer. The commandments seem to be a bunch of Edicts To Self to remind the writer to not lose sight of what life is meant to more
  • That’s the way real men behave. Good night. What do you make of this take on masculinity? Or, if you prefer, this take on the importance of certainty. Yes, this is another post inspired by Zorba the Greek. See my rant about uneasiness and letting go, too, if you like. The two nomad friends must part ways in the morning. The “Boss” can’t more
  • A noble case for sorting your anger, soonest Frank Bruni in the New York Times the other day, in response to Yet More Sad Trump Guff: Today’s partisans have made anger into an industry — using it to run up the number of listeners, viewers and hits. Our language is growing coarser. Our images, too…Madonna fantasizes about blowing up the White House. Kathy Griffin more
  • Greece is teaching me “philotimo”… an unfathomable kindness I’m drawn to Greece. I’ve spent a lot of time here. I keep coming back to absorb the incredibly kind energy of this raw, honest, story-steeped land. For, when I do, this energy seeps into me and I become a better person for it. Greece and Greeks have many lessons to teach me. As I was more
  • I love this definition of true love When you’re single you find yourself looking at your peers ensconced in romantic relations and you try to decipher the secret to good, true love. You know, love that’s fruitful, growth-precipitating, kind and able to foster the spread of kindness beyond the couple in question. Often, sadly, I find my answer in opposition to what I see my more
  • Fire the f*ck up! There is a piquancy in the air. A sense we’re on the precipice of something. That we can no longer afford to be complacent. And yet. We’re sitting back. Aren’t we. Waiting. For the right moment? For the red carpet to be rolled out? For someone else to take the lead? To that I say, more