• The most essentialist observation about what women need in love I’ve ever made What do women want? Blokes, there’s only one thing you need to know. When we rant (seemingly) irrationally, when we do something that makes you say, “I damned if I do, I’m damned if I don’t”, or when we arch our eyebrow when your response to a confrontation is, “You’re just being complicated” …we are more
  • I don’t want to do any more run-ups! Let’s start life! How timely. The first post to sit in my new, pretty format (hope you like it?) and it’s about getting this life party started. I happened to notice this article about the challenge facing women in their twenties and thirties on Australian news site Women’s Agenda. The article quotes author and entrepreneur Wendy McCarthy, who says her real more
  • Interrupt anxiety with gratitude I caught up with Danielle LaPorte the other day. I wanted to ask her a bit about anxiety. She gets it. She writes about it. I’ve followed her White Hot Truths for a while. And her career in the self-help-of-the-brutal-variety realm. (Note: Danielle tours Australia next month, with special guest Clare Bowditch. Details, and a ticket giveaway, below). A more
  • How is the state of your heart, in this breath? I ask, “How are you?”.  “Busy”. “Flat out”. “So much going on.” That’s what I get back.  We might be busy. But busy is a choice of mindset, if you think about it. It’s funny, busy-ness is what creates our aching need for more self-care and a deep desire to live a life we actually more
  • Do we need a 30-hour work week? Let’s talk about it seriously. How about this for an idea? A mandated 30-hour work week? Recently in The Guardian leading UK social policy voice Anna Coote presented the idea as something that makes sense from many angles – social, environmental and economic. And yet we resist the idea. What are we all waiting for? Technology and automation was meant to more
  • Leonard Cohen: The yearning at your core Leonard Cohen is a man who lived with inner anguish, but did so gallantly. He celebrated the melancholy of life. He planted the truth of our existence (we die, my friends!) before us without apology. He wrestled with all this, but, again, without apology. In the wake of his recent passing, you might like to more
  • This is how I do my longreads Much of where we are feeling we’re going wrong lies in the speed at which we are moving, talking, toggling and…reading. I’ve shared one of my favourite takes on this, by David Malouf writing in the Quarterly Essay not so long ago. Malouf suggests: We are moving at a speed that’s not conducive to discerning more
  • To be a full person, you have to let nothing happen There was a lovely response to my I have my freedom today because nothing really happened post a few weeks back. Nicely, this pierced my radar – an interview comedian Louis C.K. did on Late Night with Conan O’Brien. He discusses the same theme. Of being OK with nothing happening. He refers to our smartphone habit – more
  • A really bizarre trick for drinking coffee when you have hormone issues! My mate Kate Callaghan is a nutritionist, personal trainer and author, specialising in hormone healing and fertility. Today I’ve asked her to share a trick she told me about recently for those of us who have hormone derangement, but who love coffee. It’s a common quandary…and it would appear Kate has a solution… (Plus, a more
  • Where can an anti-consumption approach fit when you own a business? I’ve obviously contemplated this a bit. I personally don’t buy very much, but I sell things. Most of my wares are electronic and are educational tools to assist consumers to, in fact, consume less and, importantly, waste less. I sell printed books, too. How do I sit with that? Quite well. Books are not disposable. more