• Lonely much? Me too. This helps. Further to my post on Martha Nussbaum’s notion of seeking out difficulty to have a good life, I’d like to chat to you about a rant on the value of loneliness I came across today on BrainPickings.com. The rant picks up on an idea explored in The Lonely City by Olive Laing – that loneliess more
  • How to love mindfully Oh I do love a bit of Thich Nhat Hanh. I recently discovered that the Vietnamese monk who brought us the mindful concept of “washing the dishes, to wash the dishes” has written about mindful love in his book “How to Love”. It’s a beautiful read. It hits nails on relationship heads. But I was more
  • 8 clever ways to reuse a ziplock bag Let’s get really Sustainable Nerd today. I promote using sealable plastic bags when cooking and freezing food. They’re the perfect size for storing individual portions and things like parcooked ‘n’ frozen veggies really well; they become totable freezer blocks in a blink; they are better for storing in the freezer (I pack mine in layers); more
  • The soulful secret to family holidays (and to moving in with your boyfriend) New York Times columnist Frank Bruni does his summer holidays like my family and I: all together, in a beach house, for an extended period. Here he is: “EVERY summer for many years now, my family has kept to our ritual. All 20 of us — my siblings, my dad, our better halves, my nieces more
  • You go shopping for shoes. Then the Diderot Effect. Back in the late 1700s, French philosopher Denis Diderot found himself broke. But he lucked out when Catherine the Great heard he couldn’t afford to pay for his daughter’s wedding and she stepped in to give him a huge wad of cash. Feeling flush, he bought himself a new red robe. Then this happened… He more
  • It’s OK to do drafts I’m writing a book. A book that’s extending me in ways I probably wouldn’t have chosen. But I did. So here I am, strapped in, doing the work. I’m particularly attuned to insights about writing and the creative process right now. A few weeks back I wrote Just do it like a motherfucker. Michelle Barraclough shared this wonderful more
  • A hiking guide to Hawaii Another installment in my series of hiking guides. If you’re new to the series…it’s worth my flagging that I travel to hike. I live to hike. Here’s why and how it works for me. Hawaii is a hiker’s haven so I’m surprised with myself it took so long to get there. But, then, I was more
  • When I see those “Gifts for the hard-to-please” guides this is what I do… These articles are popping up in my feed with increasing ferocity right now. For the “hard to please”. For “the person who has everything”.  You, too? Sometimes I look at their list of gift solutions. It’s all Shit No One Wants. Shit That Takes Up Room in Miscellaneous Kitchen Drawers and Precious Resources On The Planet. Like more
  • I’ve seen my future and (I hope) it looks like Leo Lately I’ve been reassessing what matters to me. Like really looking at things fully, and prepared to “put a bomb” under things. This happens for me every few years. Jo sent me this video, randomly. And it arrived with impeccable timing. [vimeo]https://vimeo.com/96642599[/vimeo] I’ve no idea who Leo is but what about these synchronicities (here’s my more
  • Just do it like a motherf*cker Before Cheryl Strayed became That Wild Girl, she was an agony aunt at Rumpus.net. She went by the moniker “Sugar”, it so happens. In light of my recent posts about writing like no one cares, the joy of lowering your expectations and faking it until you make it, I thought today I’d simply run a response more