• I’m finding peace with being a constant mover Do you guys remember Hazel Boot? Gosh, she’s great. I love the story of how we “met”. The other day she reached out. And we did some really cool quote sharing. We worked out that we’re both people who need to move a lot. As in, exercise, hike, ride and traverse vast tracts of ground, more
  • first, we make the beast beautiful. a new story about anxiety… This beautiful beast has been the biggest project I’ve ever worked on. I’ve lived through it, under it. It’s taken me down, down, down. But it also forced me to get clear. I had to with such an exacting team of (wonderful) editors. And a readership I give a shit about. Today, I wanted to more
  • That moment you stop asking if you are going to be okay… I don’t know if I can discuss this further. If I can add to it. Cleo Wade is an artist, poet and speaker. She often shares her poetry on Instagram. She nails life when she does so. I guess the bravery she alludes to is one that we have to summon when the shit really gets real more
  • I’ve been a nomad for six years. This is what it’s done to me. I’ve not lived in my own place, with furniture and belongings around me, for a good chunk of my life. I’ve never owned a fridge. Nor a washing machine. Nor an iron. Six years ago I gave everything away, reducing my belongings to two suitcases, and decamped to a (frugally furnished) army shed in the more
  • Trust your contradictions I’m on a roll with this theme: exploring beautiful ways to find challenges entirely rewarding. (Small admission: it’s sort of the theme of my latest book project). I covered the value of loneliness last week and hunting down difficulty to have a good life the week before. Now contradiction.  Again, Maria Popova at BrainPickings alerted me to a read more
  • Lonely much? Me too. This helps. Further to my post on Martha Nussbaum’s notion of seeking out difficulty to have a good life, I’d like to chat to you about a rant on the value of loneliness I came across today on BrainPickings.com. The rant picks up on an idea explored in The Lonely City by Olive Laing – that loneliess more
  • Your solitude is profound. In case you’re despairing. I honestly have no idea where I came across this quote. I’ve been reading a few heavy philosophy texts lately. It came from one of them, I think. Loneliness, aloneness, craving humans while also needing to flee… these are themes I explore a lot here. For me, finding the right balance between being in and more
  • Dear Friends and Family, I’m sorry I’m e-hurting you… I read the other day, in the New York Times, about the phenomenon of “hiding in plain e-sight”. Oh, yes, it’s such a “thing”. HIPES – as I’ll call it for expediency – is the act of hiding from people’s unanswered calls, texts and emails, seemingly unavailable and presumably offline, while being visible on social more
  • Being creative can be a lonely path I loved reading about this new study into the connection between creativity and mental illness. It effectively found that creativity has little correlation with genius. While there is a connection with a highish IQ  (the “average” creative has an IQ around 120), the real nexus is with a touch of madness. But more specifically (and more
  • insomnia: an artistic representation that somehow makes it feel less lonely If you’re an insomniac these images by artist Paul Davis at copyrightdavis.com will very much resonate. Not so much for the meaning in the squiggles. But the demented aesthetic. How much do you totally get the hatred you feel for the loved one lying next to you…asleep (HATE HER SLEEP). How come it works for more