• Do you want to be right or to love? I’ve had reason recently to visit this idea again. A most powerful idea, beautifully brought to us by Rumi. Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there. More than six years ago I wrote about the idea in detail. I’d read a New York Times Modern Love more
  • Trust your contradictions I’m on a roll with this theme: exploring beautiful ways to find challenges entirely rewarding. (Small admission: it’s sort of the theme of my latest book project). I covered the value of loneliness last week and hunting down difficulty to have a good life the week before. Now contradiction.  Again, Maria Popova at BrainPickings alerted me to a read more
  • This is the goal of the human experiment Bite on this and chew it: “You will be civilised on the day you can spend a long period doing nothing, learning nothing, and improving nothing, without feeling the slightest amount of guilt.” – Nassim Nicholas Taleb. Reader Leonie shared this with me following my post about my time in an Ayurvedic clinic in India more
  • Your favourite songs to lull anxiety A few weeks ago I shared a post about songs that can lull anxiety. And why. To refresh, this is the top ten list as compiled by a bunch of boffins from the British Academy of Sound Therapy: 1. Weightless 2. Electra (Airstream) 3. Mellomaniac (DJ Shah – Chill Out Mix) 4. Watermark (Enya) 5. Strawberry more
  • Why songs heal anxiety (especially these ones) Music can very much help with my anxiety. It lulls, it distracts, it provides a lofty, expansive perspective from which I’m able to “see” my anxiety and ride it out. Sound therapists at the British Academy of Sound Therapy looked into why this may be so and created the most scientifically relaxing song possible. Listen to more
  • Each ordinary day, are you doing what satisfies you. Or….? We are odd creatures. We often engage in what torments us. Witness the hours we spend toggling on social media. And we chase the future (fretting, planning) and pause in the past (lamenting and being angry), when we know that being present is what brings us joy. And, then, to get even further away from more
  • A mindful review: M Train by Patti Smith Here’s another book review. I liked this one. I was totally absorbed. Patti Smith, is of course the New York punk-rock legend from the eighties who has now written multiple award-winning books. Background: I don’t know why I picked up this book. When I did a quick flick through it at the bookstore, it immediately more
  • Have you married yourself yet? I’ve just been introduced to the poet and philosopher, David Whyte. In his book The Three Marriages, he says we need to navigate, yep, three marriages in life: one to others (“particularly and very personally, to one other living, breathing person”), another to work and another to one’s self, “through an understanding of what it means to be more