• When wellness friends get caught up in QAnon conspiracies: some resources Earlier this week I decided to write an oped for The Guardian about a phenomenon plaguing many of us – how people we know, mostly “loose” friends from Facebook who, more often than not, are wellness warriors or spiritual types, have suddenly bought into QAnon-inspired conspiracy theories. I wrote the piece because I was really more
  • The anxiety – and danger – of isolation when you live alone The other day I did an Instagram Live about the impact of isolation policies on single people, people without kids and, solo dwellers. The already-lonely. I am one such. My interest was vested…but is also based on my understanding of anxiety science. Sadly, I didn’t keep the Live video to be able to share on more
  • I now sleep 7-8 hours! This is what changed my entire life… I’m aware the headline above is perhaps predictably blog-bait-ish. But it’s actually the truth. I’ve been insomniac since I was seven years old I’ve experimented with all kinds of salves. But, after many trials and errors, I’ve found a handful of (almost)  silver-bullets. Like most of you, I also have multiple lifestyle things I do, more
  • A guide to Peaceful Tokyo This post is a bit of departure from my normal travel guides. And from how people normally travel in big cities. Cities are loud, frenetic affairs that toss my nerves like gravel in a sieve. And I wobble my way around them, assaulted by smells and noises and missing the view. Sleep suffers. I’m not more
  • The First, We Make the Beast Beautiful book club guide is here One of the reasons I wrote First, We Make The Beast Beautiful was to start a new conversation about anxiety. Every chat we have about anxiety –  with loved ones, friends, colleagues, strangers – brings us in closer, and making us feel less lonely, which, as I explain in The Beast, allows us to do more
  • The sisterhood of pain and PTSD…an interesting perspective I just read Sebastian Junger’s Tribe. Junger is a war journalist who posits that post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) among veterans is mostly an issue with homecoming. That is, the most devastating and longterm psychological stress doesn’t come from the horrors of war so much as from the cold contrast of reintegrating into a society that more
  • Parenthood makes you mature. But what if you don’t have any kids? I’ve been thinking about this a bit. Maturity. I realised I’ve not really grown up. But I’m getting there. At 44. I was swimming across Bondi beach (where good thoughts often come to me), reflecting on a chat I’d had recently with my friend Rebecca. She has three kids, a full-time job, writes books and more
  • It’s called continuous partial attention… I read this Atlantic article about the dangers of screen time on kids. Yeah, blah, blah. But, no! This article turns things around. The bigger, broader, scarier issue (bigger than the direct effects of kids’ screen addictions) is the impact of parents’ screen addictions. Yeah, we’ve all been projecting. We always do when we experience shame, which reminds me more
  • Kanye is bipolar. And he’s a narcissistic bigot. I’m being asked a bit about Kanye’s recent album Ye, which I listened to over the weekend as part of my “remain pop culturally relevant in my 40s” project. (I read recently we stop exploring music in our 30s…I wish/beg to differ; I’m also resisting increasing the font size on my phone, but that’s another more
  • I want to own the fact I rant about consumerism and then this… I appeared in a Stellar magazine on the weekend (the popular colour insert that runs in the News Corp newspapers in Sydney and Melbourne; it also ran in Queensland and WA). I agreed to do the interview to be able to talk in more (hopefully useful) detail about walking away from “more” and money and more
  • It’s hard for me to love a weak character Existentialist Hannah Arendt famously coined the phrase “the banality of evil”. She used it to describe what she felt was the most extreme failures of personal moral awareness –  not thinking and not responding adequestly when the times demand it. You know, sitting back and doing nothing even though the world is falling apart. And more
  • I’m doing “cool loneliness” I’ve had cause to think about loneliness again lately. A journalist acquaintance brought it up over breakfast – she was surprised to read in first, we make the beast beautiful that loneliness is such a theme in my life. “But you come across as someone who doesn’t need other people.” Which is a lonely person’s more
  • The Anti-Anxiety Diet ebook! So my US publisher asked if I’d write a program that taught us all how to eat for anxiety, to accompany the launch of first, we make the beast beautiful in the US and UK in April. So I did. Because I have a habit of saying, yes. * I’m afraid it’s only available in more
  • A note from a 16-year-old that blew my mind Do you mind if I share this lovely note with you? Sarah L. reached out to me with the letter below. I get hundreds of letters and messages daily in response to first, we make the beast beautiful. I’ve had to employ someone two days a week to help me answer the questions and provide more
  • As you make 2018 resolutions, remember this my anxious friends… …we’re not all that bad to have around. And we might not have to turn ourselves completely inside out to become better people. We come with a swag of good points. You know? It occurred to me as I sit here writing my next book that we need to remind ourselves that we don’t have more
  • The #1 thing to share with loved ones (if you have anxiety) This is a quick little tip from first, we make the beast beautiful. I’ve found it to be one of the most popular and follows on from the post “Three ways loved ones can actually help us when we’re anxious as f*ck”. I followed a thread on an anxiety site one day that discussed the more
  • The Beast is now available in the US + UK! My Dear Patient North American and British Friends, You can now preorder order First, We Make the Beast Beautiful. And the great thing is that… Barnes & Noble is offering 30% off for Early Birds (still!), and Amazon US is offering 34% off! You can click straight through and buy from here…. Also Target are offering 34% more
  • Three ways loved ones can actually help us when we’re anxious as f*ck In this post last week I follow up on an edited extract from first, we make the beast beautiful in which I outline all the contradictions inherent in why we need people, but push them away, when we’re anxious. Today’s share is the antidote, geared at at our loved ones; you might want to tag them in the more
  • Don’t be nervous, work joyously. I came across Henry Miller’s “11 Commandments of Writing” in a review of a book of his essays. The book was written around the time he wrote Tropic of Cancer. The commandments seem to be a bunch of Edicts To Self to remind the writer to not lose sight of what life is meant to more
  • Why we need people, but push them away, when we’re anxious This is an edited extract from my book first, we make the beast beautiful that picks up after an anxiety attack in the presence of my ex-partner “The Life Natural”. I tried to sum up the weird contradictions and paradoxes and baffling inconsistencies inherent in our need for/inability to cope with people when our heads more
  • Here’s the first chapter of my book. You know, for nada. My beautiful publishing team at Pan Macmillan made this for me. It’s a little flipper thingo that allows you to read the first chapter of first, we make the beast beautiful. No obligation to go buy the thing. And remember it’s always available at libraries around the country (my beautiful publishing team won’t love me more
  • I’m clear about what I’m hungry for. You? I ate at Gabrielle Hamilton’s Prune in New York about six years ago. I didn’t realise the story behind the woman. I do now and have been watching her “Mind of A Chef” series on Netflix recently. She shares in this interview her bold thinking about everything. She sticks it up complacency. Me, I’m very more
  • Why am I a nomad? Have you read Bruce Chatwin? I read Songlines, his fiction-meets-non-fiction account of his travels in deep Aboriginal country during a hiking trip at the start of the year. It’s worth a read. As I shared with my friend and National Geographic explorer Dan Buettner: “He is a rare writer who can actually insert himself into a story and more
  • I rate 7 natural anxiety remedies As I write in first, we make the beast beautiful, a pick axe to the head won’t cut it when my anxiety is at full throttle (so don’t suggest some chamomile tea, or valerian, in such instances!). I accept this; I now put my efforts towards maintaining an even keel. In The Beast I liken more
  • What to do when hopelessness sets in While I was in Crete two loved ones reached out to me in a lot of pain. It’s one of the benefits of being in a wonky time zone – you can talk to family and friends at intimate hours. Both of these special people are experiencing deep hopelessness – that point where you feel there more
  • What Zorba The Greek taught me about being free (prepare for f*cking gold!) I flagged a post ago about why Zorba the Greek is a book that must be read that I’ll be sharing several Zorba lessons. Such is the impact it’s had on me. The first was about my uneasiness in the face of the “is-ness” of life. Here’s another. It’s possibly the most succinct overview of what it takes more
  • In which I explain why Zorba The Greek must be read I’m in love with Zorba The Greek. He’s a character (in a novel), a real man (Nikos Kazantzakis based the character on someone he met in the 1920s), and he’s every Greek I’ve ever loved, for he distills all that I have in my heart, waiting to be expressed in full, in stunning exclamations that cut Right To more
  • Doubt and certainty comes with giving a shit. True dat. One of the painful things about our time is that those who feel certainty are stupid, and those with any imagination and understanding are filled with doubt and indecision. – Mathematician Bertrand Russell A somewhat elitist  statement, but one I’ve been quoting to a lot of mates lately as they worry about the fact that they think they more
  • Freedom is always available. Will you pay the price? Freedom is always available. One need only pay the price for it. – Henry de Montherlant How much do you want it? How much will you pay for yours? I seek freedom from the constraints of “having to do something that makes no altruistic or elegant sense”. The price I pay? I live a largely lonely life. more
  • I’ve created a Pandora anxiety mixtape for you! While I was writing my book it occurred to me, “wouldn’t it be ace to put together a soundtrack of tunes for anxious types like me that could elevate our experience to a comfortable place, particularly when we’re wired up, in line with something resembling beauty and purpose and grace…so we can, well, feel more more
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