• The impossibility of being present (should we bother?) Says Soren Kierkegaard: “It is perfectly true, as the philosophers say, that life must be understood backwards. But they forget the other proposition, that it must be lived forwards.” This is, indeed, true. We are the only creatures that do this – live forwards, plunge into the future with an awareness of our inevitable finality. more
  • If you’re not in the arena getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested We all love Brene Brown, right? Her vulnerability polemic strikes deep, meaningful chords. I’ve met and chatted to her and learned that we both do the “three strikes and we act” thing. I also share her tips for getting real with yourself. I share also share a bunch of her insights from our chats in my more
  • We need to, collectively, stop the blame game This is a theme that’s been floating about the Zeitgeist. I’ve been speaking to a few people about it. I’ve been witnessing it in myself, and also witnessing it being directed at me (the two go together, the world being a self-reflecting beast ‘n’ all). My thinking is this. Life is getting bigger and faster more
  • The funny story of the bronze statue of my noggin in a small town in Belgium So, back when I was 18 I had to kill time in Bruges for the day and went for a walk up a canal for a few hours. I found myself in a small town with not very much in it. Sitting on a park bench staring at …not very much. A crew of people more
  • My political opinions are annoying you??? I posted this image, above, on the socials a little while back. It voiced my thoughts perfectly. You see, somewhere out there in The World there is an Authority speaking from some Almighty Tome that tells us that if you’re a woman, and if you enjoy some level of fame, and if you are known in a more
  • The Adele anomaly I love anomalies. They keep us on our toes and from descending into clichés and ruts and expectations. Adele is an anomaly. In 2011, 2012 and 2016, she was named Artist of the Year. Time magazine named her one of the most influential people in the world in 2012 and 2016. With sales of more than 100 million records, more
  • I asked my mindful mates how we should respond to Trump-ism… I’m approaching you, I wrote to a handful of people I know whose job it is to be mindful in their commentary, wondering if you had the will and time to share what a sound, wise, mindful way of coping with Whatever The F*ck Is Going On Right Now. I’m after the “better” and “bigger” response. more
  • new words for happiness and love I’ve been tracking a bunch of lovely, evocative words that have no English equivalent for a while. There’s a joy to learning these “loanwords”. They remind us that there are still things out there that remain undiscovered, unencapsulated. This naivety to the human experience comes as a nice relief. I think also we enjoy the more
  • The most essentialist observation about what women need in love I’ve ever made What do women want? Blokes, there’s only one thing you need to know. When we rant (seemingly) irrationally, when we do something that makes you say, “I damned if I do, I’m damned if I don’t”, or when we arch our eyebrow when your response to a confrontation is, “You’re just being complicated” …we are more
  • I don’t want to do any more run-ups! Let’s start life! How timely. The first post to sit in my new, pretty format (hope you like it?) and it’s about getting this life party started. I happened to notice this article about the challenge facing women in their twenties and thirties on Australian news site Women’s Agenda. The article quotes author and entrepreneur Wendy McCarthy, who says her real more
  • So, everything is going to look very different… …because I’m finally updating this site. This home base will have a redesign. A tightening up. The daggy formatting and fonts will go. She’s having a haircut! It all kicks off next week. Meantime, here’s a few things I might share about sarahwilson.com, since you’re here. It’s prolly not news to you guys. Most of more
  • Think men are useless? Don’t. It only hurts us. Justified or not, women can tend to find men frustratingly lazy/self-serving/myopic/unable to plan the kids’ birthday party. And they can tend to voice such frustration often. I have a friend who shrugs her shoulders and says, regularly, “Look, women are just the more capable half of the race”. I’ve always felt uncomfortable around this kind more
  • Do we need a 30-hour work week? Let’s talk about it seriously. How about this for an idea? A mandated 30-hour work week? Recently in The Guardian leading UK social policy voice Anna Coote presented the idea as something that makes sense from many angles – social, environmental and economic. And yet we resist the idea. What are we all waiting for? Technology and automation was meant to more
  • My favourite longreads (for your weekend-reading pleasure) Earlier in the week I shared how I longread. I flagged why it is such an important practice for our frazzled brains. Today, I give you my list of favourite sources for finding long things to read that enrich my mind, make my heart soar, enhance my understanding of the world, while also drawing me more
  • This is how I do my longreads Much of where we are feeling we’re going wrong lies in the speed at which we are moving, talking, toggling and…reading. I’ve shared one of my favourite takes on this, by David Malouf writing in the Quarterly Essay not so long ago. Malouf suggests: We are moving at a speed that’s not conducive to discerning more
  • Where can an anti-consumption approach fit when you own a business? I’ve obviously contemplated this a bit. I personally don’t buy very much, but I sell things. Most of my wares are electronic and are educational tools to assist consumers to, in fact, consume less and, importantly, waste less. I sell printed books, too. How do I sit with that? Quite well. Books are not disposable. more
  • What should we give a f*ck about? You might have heard of Mark Manson’s book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck? The guy’s a personal development blogger and hyped-up online marketing dude. I skimmed his book recently in a bookshop. And frankly, I think it should be called The Subtle Art of Giving a Fuck (leaving out the “not”) because, in some more
  • “All over the place” girls Are you an All Over The Place girl? I could be accused of such a thing. I have swings and lows and roundabouts. I demand too much of those around me. I aim too high and crash. I feel bad about this. I often try to take up less room, like a long-limbed dancer at more
  • When someone expects you to be enraged, try this… Silence. This appeared in my Instagram feed at a pertinent time, a time when rage was rightfully mine. You probably caught my post about choosing love over rightness, though. And can see it’s a theme for me right now. My moral and spiritual challenge. I’ve written before how silence is beautiful and effective when a more
  • An apology Hello Readers, This is an apology for the ghastly ads on my site the past week or so. I have a unique policy on ads.  The short version? I do very little advertising here on this site and only endorse or promote something if I personally use the product/service, and only if the product/service helps more
  • Loanwords make me excited I read recently about “loanwords”. These are words that English has “borrowed” mostly because there’s simply no English equivalent that can do such a beautiful, succinct, piquant job. What I liked in the article (a Scientific American read) was the explanation for why we get such a lovely feeling – a thrill – from stumbling more
  • The secret to a good life? Hunt down difficulty I’ve read about the work of philosopher Martha Nussbaum for a while. She’s one of the most prolific thinkers around. Nussbaum has published 24 books, 509 papers and received 57 honorary degrees. Last month she won the Kyoto Prize, the most prestigious award offered in fields not eligible for a Nobel. And so on, so more
  • suffering for existence The opening line to Graham Greene’s The End of the Affair is thus: So Graham Greene. I love his pared-back writing. He plonks the squirmy bits about life and relationships on the page via characters who are invariably flawed in quite banal ways. I find he treats his characters like Agatha Christie does a plot, more
  • I write to spark my lazy soul Do you blog or write and share to the masses (however intimate or wide) and wonder why you do it? I’ve written professionally for 20 years, sharing intimate opinions and ideas across 11 columns, and I’ve blogged for seven years. I blog here for free. I’ve written roughly three posts a week and also ran more
  • I was a late creative bloomer. I agree with this theory. I took seven years to complete my BA. I was about five years older than all the other cadets when I did my official journalism training, taking a pay cut just for fun. I got my first gig on telly at 35 – when most women are giving up the screen. And I only found more
  • what struggle do you want in your life? I have a friend. Let’s call him Dick. He’s a challenge. But then so am I. But the thing is, the more he’s a challenge, the more I love him. I have to struggle at times to hold his energy, to ride his emotions, to apologise to the waiters that he’s rude to. But the more
  • Are you a thru-hiker? Mega-author Bill Bryson got into hiking for a bit, wrote a book about it which then became a movie. I’ve followed a bit of discourse on his hiking thoughts. I came across this critique that picks up on the fact that on his big hike along the Appalachian Trail he failed to thru-hike. That is, he more
  • Don’t despair if your daily habits are drabbing you out I know a lot of people can feel trapped in their daily routine. And then get sad that they’re missing out and that their life has become ho-hum. I know many parents feel this way – everything has to be slotted into a schedule that repeats each day, each week. And office workers who have more
  • Let’s go about this slowly (I’ll tell you why) Poet Mary Oliver does it for me. Have you read any of her work? She places her observations of the heart so delicately that the words disappear and a wistful truth remains. Here’s something from her recent compilation Felicity: Poems that makes me glad: I did think, let’s go about this slowly. This is important. more
  • Each ordinary day, are you doing what satisfies you. Or….? We are odd creatures. We often engage in what torments us. Witness the hours we spend toggling on social media. And we chase the future (fretting, planning) and pause in the past (lamenting and being angry), when we know that being present is what brings us joy. And, then, to get even further away from more
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