There’s a horrible feeling that grips at me from behind the neck at times. It’s like a sucky monster that latches on when I do something seemingly counter to my (often vocal) ethical stance on something. And it whispers in my ear, ”Sarah, you’re a double-standard, Pollyanna-ish flake”.

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Does he hang about your dowager’s hump too?

Anyway, I figured it’s a topic worth exploring…the contemporary angst that emanates from trying to keep up with modern life while retaining basic values – environmental, humanitarian, ethical and so on.

Here are a few of mine, some of which I’ve resolved via a bit of research. Some of which I’ve seductively rationalized to myself.

Perhaps you have a few solutions you can share for the others, or – better! – moments of your own in double standard Pollyanna flakishiness.

* I get my hair coloured to hide my frothing of grey hairs…but I claim to avoid cosmetic toxins (read my posts on why I ditched foundation and how to buy toxin-free cosmetics) I, frankly, don’t have a watertight solution for this. I’m getting very grey and my base colour is dark and I have to present on TV and I’m still in the dating game and trying to cling to some youthful looks so as to not come over all Mrs Robinson and….

For now, I keep things toxin-free where I can. A bit of an 80:20 thing going on.

* I get parking tickets pretty much whenever I drive a car (thankfully, not too often)…but claim to be frugal. This one was presented to me by someone on Instagram once. I have to say I have a rational answer for this. I’m into conserving resources, not money as such. Sure, there’s the paper the ticket was printed on, and the officer’s time, and the admin expense, but it’s not the same as buying shit you don’t need, or wasting stuff mindlessly.

* I use a dishwasher…when I promote mindful resource use. I’ve looked into this. If you stack a dishwasher properly, and put it on when it’s full only, it’s more sustainable than washing up.

* I eat chocolate. A lot. My rationalisation (I don’t think it’s toooo seductive) is that this is how I choose to take in my sugar quota. About 2-3 teaspoons of my daily added sugar count comes from chocolate. Here’s some info on how to eat chocolate so that it’s actually good for you.

* I live in the most densely populated suburb in Australia…but promote clean living. Light and shade, fast and slow. I think for some of us this is how we have to navigate the modern life/old values divide. I struggle with it, often. I should also highlight that city living can be more sustainable than country living.

* I don’t tear the windows out of envelopes before recycling. And I’ve been too lazy to look into this one…anyone want to comment?

* I’m probably about to buy a car…but I’m feeling guilty about it. This is a tricky one and is very current – possibly the motivation behind this post. Cars are huge, hulking mounds of infrastructure. This is the real issue for me, as opposed to the on-road emissions etc. (I’ll be explaining this more later, I suspect). I’ve lived without a car for years now, making do, riding and walking anywhere within 10km (which I’ll continue to do), catching public transport (which I’ll continue to do). Share schemes are great and hiring a car works well a lot of the time. But my life circumstances have changed and I’m increasingly finding it… inconvenient to not be able to jump in my car when I need to. Yes, inconvenient.

This is my moral quandary – at what point does inconvenience to me justify stamping my foot with a bunch of CO2 emissions?

Indeed, this is the quandary at the heart of all consumerist v ethical decisions.

A car will enable me to do the things I love most, more (currently bushwalking and surfing trips can be limited by transport issues) and to conduct my business with a little more ease. But does this justify the heavy foot print? I’m not sure…

* I allow makeup artists to pile on the slap…when I promote not being caught up in vanity and image. Tracy Spicer’s proactive stance on this has totally inspired me on this front.  A year ago she began deconstructing the beauty myth, and has since been weaning herself off “extreme grooming“. I’ve reflected a lot on this. I don’t feel I need to take this stance, as a priority. I think growing up as I did (parents who never ever referred to what I looked like; being a beyond-awkward-looking child… I mean, an EYE PATCH!) meant I learned to define myself away from what I looked like. And so today, I’m not too affected by image. Putting on makeup, smiling a certain way, achieving artificial “rich girl hair”…it’s like a chef putting on an apron. I put it on to do a job. Then I slip it off when the shift’s over.

* I am anxious and frenetic and let it overwhelm to the point of hurting people…but bang on all Zen. I’m on a path. And the ugly bumpiness of it keeps me there. But I can always try harder.

I think that this is what writing this post is about today. Mia culpa.

Have your say, leave a comment.

  • Roz

    Sounds like a normal life to me. We all have this duality within us and I struggle with it too. Sometimes I feel like I have dropped a mirror on the floor and all those differents shards of mirror are different parts of me. Thanks for sharing your normality! Makes me feel better already.

    • Bel

      Well put Roz!

  • Yeah yeah

    Recycling has improved a lot since the days needing to remove plastic windows. You don’t need to remove staples or glitter either. The only paper that can’t be recycled us paper that is laminated.
    Pizza boxes, aerosol cans and foil are all good to go too

    • true story?

      • Tue story! You can recycle window envelopes without removing the window.

    • I heard you can’t recycle pizza boxes because of all the cheese and oil stains??

      • Best to ask your local recycling facility or local council about pizza boxes. The rules can change from place to place.

    • Megan

      I’ve been throwing pizza boxes out as I thought you couldn’t recycle them! Thanks for clearing that up

      • Von

        https://www.bankstown.nsw.gov.au/FAQ.aspx?QID=179

        “Can pizza boxes be recycled?

        Yes, in general empty and clean pizza boxes can be recycled, however sometimes they are heavily contaminated with grease and food. The grease and food waste doesn’t dissolve in the paper recycling process reducing its quality. If the bottom of the pizza box is very greasy then tear off the top and put the bottom in the red bin (or compost) and the top in the yellow bin. No one wants to see a piece of salami in their next cardboard box…so make sure it’s clean before recycling.”

  • Jill N

    Don’t be so hard on poor old Pollyanna. She was a very courageous girl making the best of a very difficult life. Pity we can’t all do that.
    If I were in the public eye I would spend a lot more time and mo

  • Kate

    I think your amazing. You are doing your best to change the world – for the better. You inspire people everyday! I follow your mantra of ‘be kind to yourself’ and I have never felt better about myself or life in general. Your doing an incredible job, please keep inspiring us!

  • Jill N

    keyboard died. ney on appearances. a friend recently bought a car after many years without and found that it is easier to go to distant shops and buy stuff. watch it.

    • there you are. Ha! That’s too much wrongness for me to fathom!

  • M

    I definitely got a recycling brochure from my local council, saying that windows in envelopes were A-OK. Also shampoo bottles etc, are apparently fine without being rinsed out first!

    • Kay

      Thanks for that info!

      I remove the plastic from envelopes these days, but only because they get shredded along with other paper and added to my compost bin. But for years I always just checked them straight in the recycling bin
      without a second thought, so good to know councils are ok with that 🙂

  • Katrina

    Love your honesty Sarah and you are far from a hypocrite!! IQS and your blogs (amongst a lot of other things) has made me more conscious with money & waste too. I recently resisted the urge to buy a designer bag on a recent shopping trip, I love cooking and eating daggy foods now & eat ALL my leftovers. Enjoy your new car guilt-free and enjoy the freedom it provides – public transport can only take you so far 🙂

  • Krista

    Regarding recycling envelopes, the way I see it, it’s okay not to remove the windows because recyclers can remove all the sludge afterwards. Wouldn’t it be saving resources if they wouldn’t have to? And I think the windows can go to RedCycle bins at Coles, though I’m not entirely sure. And I have no science to back me up and I still leave the windows on…

    And on dishwashers, all good on running the dishwasher vs handwashing, but what about all the materials and resources that goes into making a dishwasher? And then there’s the need to buy a new and more energy efficient one, what happens to the old one?

    But as above commentators have said, such is life. Figuring out what’s right for you and screw the rest.

    • Yes, infrastructure costs often get overlooked. In my case, I moved into a house that already had a dishwasher. The dilemma was whetehr to use it or not.

  • Bella

    We’re all different and no one is perfect. That’s the reality we all struggle with, I think. And I don’t know about you, but I think maybe us girls are more prone to this perfectionism stuff?

    People are inspired by you to make positive changes in their life. That’s what matters.

    Anyone who nitpicks by looking for the things you’re not doing has missed the point. Life is not black and white.

    Always good to reevaluate now and then, but don’t be overly critical or hard on yourself. (Easier said than done, I know!)

  • Cycling Rachel Smith

    People can’t resonate with people who are too ‘extreme’. People do however resonate with people who are ‘normal’ (whatever normal is). People want to be the ‘same’, ‘fit in’ and be like others. Most people don’t like being different and standing out from the crowd. You are honest, that’s what counts. Yep living in the forest, picking wild berries and not buying anything from shops is all well and great if you don’t have to work and maintain a job/earn a living. It’s about inspiring everyone to do a little bit to ‘save the world’. If we all worked at home once a month or caught the bus to work once a month it would do heaps to cut traffic congestion. All about context.

  • aeg

    The struggle is real! I am 30 (almost 31) and have autoimmune disease. I started going grey at the tender age of 25 and my base colour is dark, dark brown, so I dye my hair constantly. I wish I were brave enough to let the grey happen (a la the beautiful Sarah Harris of UK Vogue), but I’m single and working on a PhD in an incredibly competitive environment. I’m expected to ‘be my best me’ every day—look my best, sound my best, perform at my best. So, I’m stuck in a dye or die cycle. I buy too many clothes and too much makeup. I also drive too much when I should walk (but, unfortunately, am often too sore for lots of walking). I eat chocolate. I feel resentful at other people all the time. I forego plastic bags, but often buy individual products (over)packaged in plastic. I could go on forever! My actions regularly don’t align with my values. But I think that acknowledging this is better than the alternative: inauthenticity. Despite all these pressures, I don’t try to present myself as perfect. And I appreciate realness, flawedness in other people, too. There’s something incredibly refreshing about hearing somebody say ‘I don’t know’ or ‘I’m sorry’ or ‘I made a mistake’.

  • Gina Schade

    Loved this post! Thanks for the honesty!

  • We’re all like this, walking contradictions. And trying to be a perfect human is just silly. You still have to live in the world, and as a media personality there’s that added pressure to be perfect while doing it. On the car issue, I was tossing up the car ownership thing too. Decided to get my scooter licence and it was the best decision! Lower emissions, easier to zip through Sydney, costs nothing to fill up, and you can still store a surprising amount of stuff (shopping bag, work out bag, sports gear) when you need to.

  • kath

    Consider the parking tickets as doing your bit to keep someone employed (i.e. the council ranger)

    … re the car – well meat eating technically (on the whole) causes more environmental damage than driving a car … so if you’ve reduced your daily meat consumption (or, like some people go vegetarian) you probably shouldn’t worry too much about it.

  • Kay

    Regarding dishwashers – We are a 5-person household and chose to buy a dishwasher after moving into a house that didn’t have one. My kids are little, not yet old
    enough to help out and wash the dishes properly, and I was doing a lot of washing up every day. I also found that I was reluctant to
    cook any dishes that required more than 1 wok/oven dish because of the
    dirty dishes being created. Between work, study and parenting (and the
    other housework!) I realised that I needed the time back that I was spending at the kitchen sink, washing up.

    We did a fair bit of research before we bought it. It was a bit more expensive than we’d hoped for, but as with our washing machine, we chose one that had a good water efficiency and energy efficiency rating.

  • Kat

    I have just turned 46 (yesterday)…I colour my hair with a more natural colouring, but still end up with horrible dermatitis on my scalp, around my ears & neck. I am seriously thinking of cutting my long hair short and letting nature take its course…oh the vanity….I want long lush nicely coloured hair that makes me feel youthful..!!
    we use a dishwasher for most items, wash up in a bucket for the other stuff, using a small amount of biodegradable liquid, I then throw that out onto my very brown lawn.
    I try and live a clean healthy life…..but its not always easy. I do my best and I figure that is better than not doing anything at all. Do what you can and don’t feel guilt towards what you aren’t able to do.

  • Gemma

    Wow Sarah I read your posts often and I feel why the hec do you need to justify yourself. I understand that you are in an industry where you are exposed to others options, which I guess we are all in life. But you should be able to do whatever you like without constantly being questioned! Keep doing what your doing your an pretty awesome advocate for living a healthier more fulfilling life I know what I read your posts it surely brings me back down to earth. ps your not a Hypocrite 🙂

    • Thanks Gemma, I guess I feel it’s a topic we might all need to be questioning ourselves on

  • andreamatthews

    Cars are more efficient than ever. You just need to pick one that is the most efficient for your usage. Lots of short city journeys, then a plug in electric vehicle would be great – if you head further afield a lot, then look at something like the Mitsubishi PHEV (Plug In hybrid electric vehicle) – it’s an SUV so you can fit stacks in it as a work car and it isn’t limited by range like an pure electric car.

    If plugging in isn’t an option, you may find a small four cylinder turbo petrol car fits the bill. Something like a VW Polo would be great on fuel economy and offers low emissions. Diesels emit more CO2 but are more efficient on longer journeys.

    You can always offset your carbon emissions entirely by choosing green electricity or planting trees.

    Your best guide is http://www.greenvehicleguide.gov.au/GVGPublicUI/home.aspx

  • Guest

    I think we are all hypocrites to some degree, and I identify with heaps of your “hypocrisies”. I think if we are really conscious of every little difference we can make, then we are making a greater contribution to the well being of our society than if we don’t bother. I think it’s great if we encourage each other to find little differences they can make each day, but we don’t need to beat ourselves up over not being perfect ourselves. I am happy to go make up free, keep bags of frozen vegie ends for stocks in my freezer, but I’m not going to be ready to completely surrender to the greys for a long time yet!

  • Belinda

    Love it! We are all human, not super human and this normalises the ‘health’ movement, we need more of this… oh and if you want a great resource to do better with toxic free cosmetics, hair care etc.. I’m launching an online guide for that in May that I hope you find useful http://www.naturalbeautyexpert.com.au Thanks for your ongoing honesty, its refreshing!

  • Emma Moses

    I think we are all hypocrites to some degree, and I identify with heaps of your “hypocrisies”. I think if we are really conscious of every little difference we can make, then we are making a greater contribution to the well being of our society than if we don’t bother. I think it’s great if we encourage each other to find little differences they can make each day, but we don’t need to beat ourselves up over not being perfect ourselves. I am happy to go make up free, keep bags of frozen vegie ends for stocks in my freezer, but I’m not going to be ready to completely surrender to the greys for a long time yet!

  • Claire Baker

    Oh wonderful Sarah. I love this. To trade our ego’s whispers of ‘Hypocrite!’ with the joy of embracing our contradictions? That’s a path I wanna be on.

  • Petra

    Great time for this post! I’m forever worrying about being hypocritical on things I’m willing to take a stance on.. Environmental issues (always receiving the ‘hippy’ label), recently decided against strict vegetarianism and for non wastefulness and ethical cuts for eating meat… Sometimes it’s hard not to feel defensive and worried about the questions though!

  • Jo

    Sounds normal to me too.

    In the same way that we have rules and laws about certain things because those things are an issue in our society, we talk about stuff that we care about or are interested in because we are still moving towards those things. If hypocrisy is as simple as saying one thing and doing the opposite, then it would be possible to say that our society is hypocritical, because we have laws that say one thing but gaols full of people who did the opposite. We have to be careful about how judgemental we are of ourselves and others, and realistic about the extent to, and ways in which we bring our values into our actions.

    I’ve never imagined that the person behind this webpage was a saint or a hypocrite. But the internet is often quite lacking in context, and polarising, and people love to feel outraged. I’ve seen you be attacked in the comments for your ‘hypocrisy’. As for me personally, I am quite selfish and lazy. I care about certain things, but sometimes its too hard to do as much as I would like to. I let it go and try again next time. I’m so selfish I don’t care if people think I’m lazy. But in conversations, I would always talk about best practices, and I’m very interested in other people’s practices, in finding and learning better practices, always imagining that the human I’m talking to also has their good days and their bad days with their practices and their journey.

  • Christine

    You’re just human! Have you read ‘the Art of Asking’ by Amanda Palmer? In it she says she is constantly visited by the ‘Fraud police’, just voices in our own minds calling ourselves out for not being perfect. I think we all have this.

  • Tracy Black

    Sarah you gorgeous woman, there is a difference between hypocrisy and evolving. Our ideals do and should change as we absorb more information and let our life experiences mould us. A big part of being human is to say, you know, I was wrong (not saying you ever were Sarah) but speaking for myself. And each time this happens to me I realise: each persons view or choice is actually right, for them, in that moment!

    And that is why we should NEVER pass judgement on anothers choice!

  • Cherie Menzies

    It’s ok. I know a woman with a cycling blog but she rides a motor scooter. Still her heart really is in cycling, but in reality and living in the city .. It’s easier to get around on the scooter. I think it’s Sydney, it’s so big, it’s really hard to get everything done. I’ve lived my whole life in Sydney without a car and I feel how that restricts me. I made sure my daughter learned to drive. You do your best, but you have a lot to do. Get your car, you deserve it.

  • Mary

    I think the main thing is when you’re on a mission like you are despite people thinking you’re possibly an extremist (maybe like the paleo stance) to not be worried about what people think… Always know the stance you’re making is a good one for everyone and maybe they just haven’t realised yet…
    Everybody craps on Pete Evans and he comes across like an extremist but actually he’s got a lot of amazing things to say and ppl just don’t wana change… Sometimes it’s easier to just go along with the sheep than change and an extremist like him or yourself seems too much at the time but in the end ppl like you can make really big changes to human kind! A positive one!! 🙂

  • I can completely relate to this post and think it has a lot to do with priorities, but also our values, which are often nuanced, e.g. I’d rather finish all of my conventional beauty products than just swap straight over to ‘clean’ beauty to save waste. We’re often our harshest critics. Love hearing people share their own contradictions xx

  • August

    Thanks for the honesty. I’m struggling this year. Hearing the ‘real’ stuff helps x

  • Brooke

    I am with the majority of comments – I think we all have this part to us, does it make us all hypocrites or does it just make us who we are and shows we have our individual beliefs and idiosyncrasies. hypocrite or just getting through life

  • Michelle

    I actually just had my husband correct me about the envelope windows. I was ripping them out and he told me you no longer have to…I guess they have technology that removes them? Totally agree on the car thing. I live in the USA and even when you live in an urban area it’s tough to do without a car because we allowed the car companies to have too much say in our infrastructure decisions back in the day. I would say if you only use it when you really need too and make sure that if you can get there other ways you do you’re fine. If it’s parked most of the time you’ll likely be able to keep the car for years without replacing it, win!

  • Wendy

    You are way too hard on yourself Miss Wilson!!! I too try hard but some things like hair dye I am unwilling to give up (yet)

  • Mina

    If it’s any consolation, I and one of my friends in particular have similar dilemmas. We both profess to eat clean and sugar free and do not use toxins in our home, or on / in our bodies, most of the time, and to the best of our ability. We try to do this for our children as well.
    Then there is the other side of the coin…Sometimes that bathroom needs some bleach, sometimes I can be a bit of a recycling Nazi and sometimes I get a bit slack. Sometimes, I use fabric softener just because I love the smell of it on my clean clothes. We both colour our hair and use deodorant because we both have a few greys (I think, but who would know?) and coconut oil for armpits and face just doesn’t do it for us. My friend, despite all this clean, toxin free stuff, uses Botox and is enquiring about a boob job. I have had fruit acid peels and microdermabrasion in the quest for healthy, glowing, youthful skin. So you see, you are not alone. Like I always say, we all have our quirks and these are just A FEW of mine.

  • Sez

    This is an intensely tedious question, and something that I personally grapple with often.. Please don’t feel obligated to answer however any input you have would be hugely appreciated. What are you thoughts on botox?

  • Loved this post! I don’t think you’re a hypocrite at all – just human. We are all so critical of ourselves but I think most of the time we’re all doing the best we can. Here’s to embracing our contradictions…

  • Claudia Miceli

    Sarah you are only human. Cut yourself some slack and stop the hating

  • Sue15cat

    Nope … you’re not a hypocrite … you are just human, like the rest of us 😉

  • Cookie

    what about botox and fillers Sarah. Are you guilty of these?

  • Gemma

    I struggle with exactly the same things, trying to act in the way you know is ‘right’ but find that sometimes doing so goes against real life and the way you might be feeling at the time. I think as with everything, we just need to keep to the 80:20 rule otherwise life is just no fun and more of an inconvenience rather than a life. You can’t let that guilt voice get to you.
    Great post!

  • Lisa

    Brilliant post! It’s refreshing and honest nothing wrong with that! Keep doing what you’re doing 🙂

  • Jane

    So glad you’re human!

  • Mona

    Interestingly, this week’s edition of Time Out London visits a local recycling plant and the journalist poses this very same question. The response of the plant’s development manager was “Yes, if you want to be teacher’s pet. But if you haven’t got time, it’s not the end of the world. The paper will be pulped and screened to remove debris.” I don’t know if it’s the same in Australia, but why wouldn’t it be?

  • Vasiliki Didaskalou

    You eat chocolate!? I hope it is the raw cacao kinda chocolate otherwise I am going to be upset that we are all eating that tasteless and bland stuff and you are not 🙂

    … as for why I eat chocolate my excuse is that it is rich in Magnesium 😛

  • Julie

    I love the honesty of this post. I think a lot of us who are similarly trying to live greener and cleaner existences often struggle with living by these principles 100% of the time – and particularly, working out how to balance this with the competing need for convenience. To that end, I say buy the car, ditch the guilt and enjoy the freedom it gives you!

    On a side note – I am also a (gradually) greying brunette, and would love to find a hair salon in Melbourne that uses “toxic-free” (or at least a less toxic) hair dye that actually works (i.e. not that henna crap). Does anyone have a good recommendation?

  • Jeannette de fleurette

    I am 50 years young… I have allowed my hair to go silver naturally. It is speckled with silver threads ….. I have had hashimotos for most of my life and recently discovered I have the MTHFR gene. So it is super important to stay toxin free. But the reason I do not dye my hair is I really feel that it is vital to me to be authentic and honest. As I’ve got older I wish to only have relationships with people that are authentic. This has liberated me in so many ways….. But has been challenging for other people in my life. I do however really look after my skin. Youthful skin and teeth can perfectly compliment silver hair. I just wish that more women In our media would take the plunge and stop dyeing their hair. I do not think that it always makes you look younger. ( It can make some look desperate with the constant re growth popping thru)We just need some great style icons and role models to lead the way.

  • Terri

    I am almost 30. I am having my hair cut and coloured tomorrow, and yet I dont wear deoderant or wash my hair lol. But you know, I homeschool 4 kids (saving gas emissions right?) and we are about 50% self sufficient, I cook everything from scratch, husband hunts for our meat…blah blah. I never buy myself anything (I’m still wearing maternity underwear 14 months later and I’m a size 8 now haha) It was really hard to decide to spend the money and allow them to use those chemicals etc.. But its something I want to get done, because I suppose I’m shallow, and I’ve decided I’m ok with that (I havent had my hair ‘done’ for at least 2 yrs, just cut it myself when it gets near my bum), but years ago a lady would be delighted with a new ribbon for her hair or my grandmother, some new stockings. So I’m allowing myself this one indulgence, and think it would be disservice to myself if I then beat myself up about it, what a waste of money THAT would make it 🙂

  • Jane

    I commend you for this post Sarah, if anything for good publicity for your image and blog. But in all honesty, I was baffled when I saw an Instagram photo of you wearing some bright orange nikes, which we all know are the ultimate sweatshop item, despite your stance and preaching about wearing ethical clothing. A bit hypocritical, alas, we can’t all be perfect.

    • Terri

      Ethical clothing/organic and so on is bloody expensive. Just like I believe we should all eat 100% organic. Is that realistic? No.

  • Lucy

    I absolutely love your attitude…its ozone friendly and great for the environment!…we all have to do a little zig – zag at times. Thank you for continuing to inspire (O:

  • Cherie

    Dude, you never, not once, claimed to be perfect. However ,you are human..

  • Sharon Stehn

    Just to throw it out there, does anyone think about the items in their homes and the chemicals used, such as for mattresses and furniture? I have read info on mattresses and boy are they scary.
    That being said I think if we all take time to do all the littles things we can we are making a difference. As the world catches up some of the other choices will become easier as more sustainable products become more available.

  • Nathalie

    I like the idea of 80/20 approach to life in general (not just diet). As type-A perfectionist gal, I also struggle with some aspects of my life that are not fully in line with my values. While I do tear out the windows of the envelops to recycle, some of my habits are not so environmentally friendly (I buy plastic bottles, some of which I reuse). Maybe what matters most (and keep us sane) is to be aware of our choices and their impacts. And then just keep on tweaking things in our lives to put them in line with our values; knowing that we should not be perfect at it and that depending on where we are at in our lives, we will be more or less good at it.
    I so hear your point on preaching zen, while not being all that zen. What I found lately though is that it is not a matter of trying hard. It’s actually the opposite. The zen comes from surrendering and letting go.

    Thanks for your post!

  • trvo

    Sarah, We will Love you no matter what you do !

    • trvo

      Sarah, We will still Love you no matter what you do !

      You could be
      in league with satan or worse a secret member of the Liberal Party but
      no matter, your Honesty and Sincerity to do Good is worth the price of
      admission. Hey I am going to Greece in a month , do you want to meet up
      for a Paleo all you can eat ? Coffee ? Anything ? Let me know,

  • JazzyJ

    perhaps it’s too harsh but I read ‘hypocrite’ as ‘imperfect’ here. I reckon that the rules, scheduling, and wish to do everything right can be so detrimental to one’s health and wellbeing that it can negate the ‘good for you’ stuff. important to cultivate kindness and always go gently. it’s more of a mea vita rather than mea culpa.

  • Thanks for being real – it’s great to read such honesty!

  • H

    we’re all human Sarah! everyone makes mistakes, learns (or doesn’t). there isn’t any need to rake ourselves over the coals. we have to practice grace and compassion with ourselves before we can present it to others.

    I noticed that you get hostile comments on your blog… it is easy to judge other people rather than work on your own ‘stuff’. perhaps we can all work to be a little kinder and have more understanding with each other.

    ps if you are conflicted about buying a car you could look into small size cars like fiat, prius etc

  • you nailed it when you said “this is the quandary at the heart of all consumerist v ethical decisions” and we will all have days when we stuff up, but as long as we are all doing our very best most of the time we are making a difference in the world

  • Guest

    That last one really

  • Guest

    hi

  • That last one really hit me, as I often feel like a hypocrite in that respect too. How can I write about mindfulness and zen and life habits, but then yell at someone I care about because I’m stressed about work?
    It’s a process, but no one is perfect.. And you don’t have to be perfect to be an inspiration.

  • B

    I think the people who can sit with the contradiction of being a human and still press on and try to do good where they can, are the ones that will change the world for real. If the rules are absolute, then you’re not showing yourself enough kindness and in the end you’ll burn out. Its got to take a lot of mistakes and contradictions to run the long race. Keep running 🙂

  • Angela

    Cut yourself some slack on some of these! We’d all use toxin free, eco friendly hair dye it if was available, but it isn’t. Parking tickets are more anti-social than hypocritical. But the sugar thing?! I’m still confused by this, but it makes me feel better that there is no ‘perfection’.
    Even the stuff you think of as hypocritical, I think you can allow yourself to ‘offset’ these things against the lessening of everthing else that you’ve inspired people, including me, to do 🙂

  • Tez Ong

    No, its not hypocrisy – its just that its hard to be too overzealous in our lives. Like a marathon runner, we have to pace ourselves in order to last the distance.

    I know of some who cut themselves some slack & treat themselves on the weekend after a whole week of healthy eating, or those who buy themselves a treat as a reward after being faithful to their budget.

    I suggest practising the 80:20 rule – 20% of all yr activities contribute to 80% of environmental impact, so don’t sweat it….

    Get a fuel efficient car & drive like there’s eggs under the accelerator & you’re fine. After all, a happier, more productive you means you will be able to contribute more, right? 🙂

  • Gabby

    Don’t beat yourself up about being an imperfect human… most of us muddle along.. doing the best we can most of the time : )